2nd Life experiences of addiction

Second Life" internet game addiction

jcb
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Joined: 29 Dec 2009
Posts: 9

 Tue Dec 29, 2009 12:43 am

Does anyone else out there have a husband who lives on "Second Life" (internet game)? Mine plays all day and sometimes all night and then all day again with no sleep. He can easily play for 36 hours at a time with breaks only for a brief meal (30 mins max) and a few trips to the bathroom. He only leaves the house when he has to (eg for a meeting or an occasional, reluctant short walk with me). When he has been away from his game too long he bcomes exhausted and grouchy and when he is back on he is happy again and sees no need to sleep or spend time with the family. Added to this is the complication that he has been diagnosed with Parkinson's disease so in a sense the game is an escape from reality. He has changed from being an outgoing, social person to an introvert recluse who is totally absorbed by this fantasy world. Any ideas on survival and how to deal with this problem?


Hookedonkronik
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Joined: 02 Jun 2008
Posts: 186

 Tue Jan 26, 2010 7:25 pm

Be straight forward with him about it, no point in beating around the bush.

Tell him that you see this game is controlling his life. Internet addictions can do this. I was 'addicted' to World of Warcraft for three years, in which I basically gave up on my social life and spent most of my hours on that game. 

I basically had become burned-out from it (it had lacked offering new content) so it got really old for me, which I guess helped me in my quitting. One day I just stopped, so I don't think it will be hard for your husband, although he may perceive it as something he needs.

Tell him he has a family to care for, and you as well. He can't just ignore that for his own benefit of escaping from reality. It's sad to say, but if he can't wisen the eff up, then maybe you should consider if this guy even deserves you.

I wouldn't give up on him, just like how I wouldn't want my S.O to give up on me. Addictions can turn wonderful people into little monsters but it's only temporary. Deep down there is that great person still there, who surely knows that his family is more important than a video game.

My advice is be up front about it. If he refuses to recognize the problem than maybe suggest going for therapy together. If he makes no effort, after you have given your best, there is not much else you can do.

Eventually the game will diminish in his eyes, and then he will realize the mistake he has made...hopefully.

Good luck, I hope he learns that his actions are harmful.